*Findings based on unobtrusive observation and speculation.
However, demisexuals and grey-asexuals can only sniff out cake in a 15-mile radius.
Your heart. (for once, on this blog, I am being absolutely serious)
There are all kinds of different advice blogs out there, ace blogs, gay blogs, girl blogs, boy blogs, trans blogs, queer blogs etc and for the most part they’re all pretty decent BUT….but, any advice blog you encounter is going to be run by other humans in one way or another. Other humans with opinions and perceptions of their own which may or may not align with yours. I’m not saying that one should only seek advice from people who think the same way you do, I’m saying you should seek advice from people who have your best interests at heart. A friend, a family member, a mentor, a teacher, you yourself…always a person you trust.
I have witnessed some very good advice coming from advice blogs and I have also witnessed some severely wretched advice coming from the same blogs. As such, I advise anyone seeking advice to be cautious, to be skeptical and always open minded.
Follow that space in your chest that feels feelings and that thing between your ears that challenges those feelings. That combo makes a pretty rad compass.
Oh wait, no it’s not.
There is nothing to be cured.
It’s like people just can’t accept that one can be happy without feeling sexually attracted to anyone (or anything). I do not aspire to find someone I am sexually attracted to. Sex has never played into my happiness or self worth. I am a complete person without it. Just because it’s a significant part of most people’s lives, doesn’t mean it has to be a significant part of mine. I can’t help the way I am. It’s never been a choice. It’s just me. It’s just what I feel.
The thing about human beings is that we aren’t cookie cutter. We feel and experience things differently from one another. Happiness comes for us in different forms, shapes, and ways. It’s part of the beauty of life.
I love my aces, every single one. I have a great deck of friends and I ain’t folding on them. #Lame ace jokes
“You’re asexual? I think I can change that for you.”
No, what you can do is go fuck yourself.
…for anyone who pulls that line on me.