CAKE YEAH ASEXUALS

1st April 2013

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Help Spread the Word?

A week or so ago I met a nice Tumblr person who was asexual, yet had no knowledge of Tumblr’s asexual community. The reply I got to an asexual post was along the lines of “I’m not alone”.

I’m sure we can all relate to that, so I’ve decided I’d like to start a comprehensive list to add to what I’ve already got going here; but for all the asexual blogs on Tumblr.

I’m actually thinking two lists- one for blogs specifically about asexuality, and another list of asexual Tumblr users. I can pull some things from the regular posters in the tags, but I’d love to be able to get everybody.

So please reply to or reblog this post with a note saying whether you’re asexual or your blog is about it (or both! If you’ve got more than one account, please also include!); or drop me a message or submission.

Let’s make sure we know where to find each other.

Listing of everyone and every blog I have so far here.

-SophiaPhilemon

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26th February 2013

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Young aces

asexies:

Good Morning and Monday! I hope everyone had a good weekend and survived the tiny battle last night. I don’t even know what happened, but it looked messy. So I’m just going to pretend nothing happened and remain neutral about whatever happened, but I did see something I wanted to talk about! And that is young aces!

As I read through the different battle posts last night someone had said that all/most/whatever young aces just want to feel different and be a part of something new or something to that effect. So I wanted to explore some of those thoughts!

For older aces who feel like the above is true

If you are an older ace and are confident in how you feel, you should not (in my opinion) be turning someone away when they claim to be asexual. Even if you feel it is not true, even if you think they are doing it for attention, even if you’re somewhat annoyed by them, yelling at them and telling them in essence to get out is in my eyes a form of erasure. Do young asexuals not exist? As people who have been on the topic, as people who may sometimes be approached by younger aces, we should be willing to be patient and understanding and point them in the right direction when they have questions. It sucks to try to find an explanation for what you are feeling and be turned away because you are “too young”. Or told to wait and see because you “are too young.” As asexual-life constantly says when she answers younger aces questions “It isn’t bad to begin exploring at an early age.”

For younger aces

Keep an open mind. Sometimes when you are younger you get comfortable with the community you’re in and then you want to deny other possibilities. I have pretty much come out 3 times in my life because I just learned new things about myself and as I became more comfortable in my own skin and had some “trial and error” moments in my life which really sucked. But you know, it’s okay to be wrong, and no one should judge for it. Now, I am not saying that if you’re claiming to be asexual that you’re not. I am simply saying to remember that even sexuality is fluid and people change over time. If you are comfortable with asexuality and you feel you are asexual, then good. You’re asexual. Just know that there is a lot of time left in your life. I have spoken to full grown adults in AVEN who say that have drifted more into aromantic grounds or feelings and others that have gone other ways and others still that have found that they might have gone from homoromantic attraction to biromantic attraction.

For everyone

I have been meaning to say this for a while, and I think it’s good to leave this here.

Just like how we don’t like to be told that sex is necessary, or be asked how we do without it, or to be told it’s natural in every single human being ever….

A lot of aces turn around and talk about how unnecessary it is to sexuals. You guys end up being no different than them. If someone approaches you with something like that, you only need say, “I personally don’t find it necessary.” But don’t generalize it to everyone. Just like how you might not like sex or understand the point of it or it’s necessity, you shouldn’t count on sexuals to have an immediate understanding of what it is like to lack sexual attraction and not particularly need, care for, or want sex.

Just agree to disagree. And if they really want to shove their views down your throat, just walk away. Don’t feed trolls, you know? If we keep calm and stand our ground without yelling in people’s faces, it may be easier for people to take us seriously. When we argue like a bunch of 12 year olds, it’s hard even for some aces to take other aces seriously.

enough cake for aaaaallllllllll the aces

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21st January 2013

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happytaffeta asked: A random lesbian has followed your tumblr because it is full of win and snacks. Hi! ouo Can I partake of the hugs even if I'm not asexual?

YOU MAY INDEED! <3

14th January 2013

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samekh:

asexuality is really great i recommend it to everyone

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6th December 2012

Post reblogged from Southpaw with 15 notes

Help us Make Atlanta Asexy!

pearlsfromthewest:

In case you missed it earlier today, Asexual Awareness Week is fundraising with AVEN to pay for hotel rooms for people going to the Creating Change conference next month in Atlanta, GA, as well as for materials for the conference and for admin and server costs for AVEN and AAW. We just started raising money a few hours ago and we’ve already got more than $1,700 in donations! Watch this video — and if you can’t support us with money, then please support us with gratuitous signal boosting across your various internet spaces. Thank you! [>

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16th November 2012

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onethousandrbirds asked: Excuse me, hi. I was wondering about the cake thing. And the hug thing. One of my friends kept saying to day that the worst insult you could say to an ace was (sorry) "go hug yourself." What does this all mean?

There’s nothing finer than a slice of welcome cake when joining a community of asexuals, am I right? Right or not it was a trend on the AVEN boards equally embraced as the phrase “Why have sex when you could have cake?” or something. I personally think we should come up with a wilder cake story…but I’m getting off topic.

I’m not sure about the hug thing…but actually it seems like a very sensitive insult if you think about it! One might say: “Go f#ck yourself” to a person but since we don’t swing that way “Go h#g yourself” works!

Wow now I’m kinda sad. That insult is super effective.

16th November 2012

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Epic Question and Answer Time!

I like porn well enough. I masturbate fairly frequently. Gender or orientation of the material don’t much matter, so long as it’s erotical in nature. I crush on women folk (cis or trans) and can find someone pretty, although it’s more in a “I find you aesthetically pleasing” way over a “I need to jump your bones” sort of way. When it comes to physicality, I don’t really have a sex drive. Although I’ve had sexual encounters with men and women. My last 8 month relationship was almost entirely sex free aside from some oral from me to her, we tried sex a few times but never ‘finished’. I love being physically close to someone I care about but I could be and have been happy without any sex. Does that make me asexual? I’m a bit confused. I tend to identify as a hetero-romantic pansexual but maybe I’m wrong? Any thoughts? Sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask but I just saw this blog and kind of got flooded with a whole bunch of questions.

Sounds like some sort of romantically inclined-ace to me but of course the labels you want to use for yourself are something you should decide. It’s not about what you do or do not do but rather how you feel. :) Also…we have cake. Just sayin’

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16th November 2012

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briandanielwolf asked: Sorry if this is a bit weird of a question, but I'm confused: Can one be asexual and have no sexual desires, but still have a libido and enjoy sex? I saw an anon ask on another blog stating this and I wanted some clarification.

Yes yes! You can indeed be asexual and have no sexual desires but have a libido and enjoy sex. Enjoying, having, wanting, doing sex/masturbation doesn’t make or break your orientation. (Also, just as some can/will enjoy, having, wanting, doing- others will not and they can still be aces too!) ALL THE ACES

On a more serious note, one can dislike cake and still be asexual too. I KNOW THIS IS A SHOCKER BUT IT IS THE TRUTH.

:)

13th October 2012

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Asexuality/World Pride Doc

Hi, I was hoping you might be able to help spread the word about a Kickstarter campaign I’ve started to raise funds for a Asexual/Worldpride documentary I made this summer. 

Donations get access to an online copy of the film and other great things, all in the name of spreading ace visibility.  Unfortunately I cannot mail cake as a thank you for donating! But some cake karma will go your way :D

Here’s the link: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/2080916200/not-broken-not-alone